“To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.”
– Barbara Johnson (American Literary Critic)
Parents are often made to feel guilty that they do not get involved enough with their kids. But what makes the difference when it comes to time – quality or quantity?
Studies show that it is not quantity but the quality of time that makes children thrive. For example, a survey on BMJ Open showed the impact of fathers’ involvement in early child-rearing and behavioral outcomes in their pre-adolescent children.
The research reflected the quantity of time fathers spend with children is less significant than how the new fathers valued parenthood and adjusted themselves seriously through their direct involvement in childcare. It had positive behavioral consequences in their children.
The research also indicated that it is actually the emotional connection the parents have with their children that counts.
How much Time to Spend with your Child?
Well, when we stop stressing & move out of the anxiety zone, only then can we objectively look at how things are really going in our homes & can start doing what makes sense.
When you accept that you are already spending some great time with your kids, you look forward to more quality time opportunities – both scheduled and spontaneous. Your children too remain excited to be with you.
But, will your children want to hang out with you when they see you stressed rather than thrilled? We need to remember that high-pressure parenting can undermine our relationship with our kids.
So when we are less stressed, more excited and conscious about when and how to spend time with the kids, we create a meaningful connection with our kids.
For toddlers, reading, playing, can be high-quality activities. With older children, parents often recognize the quality time when it happens – for example, a simple chat in the car. You can slowly drive them around your locality so that you can discuss with your child almost anything under the sun.
Spending quality time shapes a child’s personality. If this isn’t the case, then he/she is likely to acquire attention-craving behavior, especially when in public.
No one says less time is better. But what matters the most is making the time you have count. We need to give ourselves a break from all the worry and focus on rather enjoying the little time that we get to spend with our little ones.
Spending that less yet quality time with your toddlers is totally worth it—because you can’t miss that twinkle in his/her eyes, can you?
Birdfin Nurtures some Deep Bonding between Parents & Kids
Birdfin aims to bring the whole family together through a series of fun-filled activities. As a chore app for kids, we enable teaching your children the value & true worth of money.
With the help of fun-filled tasks/activities, Birdfin renders an opportunity to both parents and kids to bond and simultaneously learn.
So what is your call on this? Why not let us know how you would like to spend quality time with your child?
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